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Thursday, February 6

FLYing

Revisited May 6, 2008
(revised Feb. 12, 2003 8:40 PM)

In case you haven't heard of this support group for the clutterly challenged, FLY stands for Finally Loving Yourself. Marla (the author and listowner) sends out various reminders, tips, and testimonials revolving around the subject of housework for SHE's (Sidetracked Home Executives).

I could live without the purple puddles, the feather duster, and the shoes, but there is something compelling about some of her messages. She criticizes some of the bad ideas floating around out there that can trip up people in getting what they want done.

One important bad idea that she often criticizes is, "If you can't do something right, don't do it at all." This motto, although it's intended to inspire, can be an enormous obstacle to doing much of anything. All one has to do is think, "Oh, I can't do that right, better not try." Instant excuse to avoid trying new things, getting work done (even work you LIKE), etc.

Flylady Marla has an anti-motto for this. It goes something like, "You can do anything for 15 minutes." Instead of looking to "do it right", she suggests just working on it for 15 minutes.

A related motto or maybe just a rewording of the one above is, "A job badly done is still a blessing." She especially warns about not accepting what help your children are willing to give, but she also mentions how important it is to accept oneself.

I love the advice to just vacuum the middles of rooms. If you're an immaculate housekeeper anyways, you might not appreciate this advice. (Then again, if it gave you an extra hour to play with your kids or read your favorite book, maybe it WOULD be appreciated). For one who is striving to just get the place looking less like the wake of a tornado and more like... a light gust had blown through, it might be just the thing.
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*Comments*
I'm an atheist and I have no problem talking about blessings. Even outside D&D games. No more than *wishing* you well.
Posted By: Elliot Temple 2/7/2003 2:07:00 PM

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